Finding a job, a way of life, a reason to be or just an earning avenue. How do you choose your career or does your career choose you? Each of us have a story, a tale to tell- be it a CEO, a stylist, or a sales exec. Some have wanted to be who they are, others not so much. Some crave a new life, while others are sated doing exactly what they do.
It is a pity when we don’t enjoy who we are and how far we have come. Instead of enjoying your current status, you choose to gripe and whine about what didn’t happen and should have, what you could have been, how you aren’t where you dreamed to be. New entrants or Trainees, senior managers, or the in betweens, you see and hear dissatisfaction and unhappy employees all around. They may be toxic to the core or just plain annoyed by their lives not turning out the way they envisioned. Planning a strategy is fine, but having the acumen to figure out how to alter it as the factors around and inside you unfold is essential to finding the best that you can do and be.
Whether you stumbled upon this job, were not able to do any other or dreamt of it for years, it doesn’t matter. What matters is your attitude. How you brave the odds. How you face adversity. How you treat those around you. How humble you are in your triumphs. Learning and growing we are each day.
Why do you do what you do? It matters not.
How you do what you do is the key.
“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”
Who do you find difficult? Someone who is not your kind. Someone who disagrees. Someone who disturbs your peace.
Each of us is created unique. Knowing how to deal with the race is a task not many are adept at. What is the best way to learn any art or science? Practice, grasshopper. That is what each of our teachers tell us, whether it is your elementary homeroom teacher or Malcolm Gladwell, author of the Outliers, who goes in in depth details of the mastery of a skill and the 10,000 hours rule.
How does one practice managing a bunch of unreasonable (according to you) persons? Why, by meeting more and more people! Simple as ABC. The more people you interact with and know, the better your chances of adapting new and innovative ways of talking, convincing, comprehending them.
Being patient and a good listener will also play a role in your growth as a more emotionally intelligent team member.
Knowing your own strength, weakness and how you project both is important. Showing off or being snotty will annoy people around you and create a snowball of negative roller coaster speeding downhill. Rationalizing your faults would do worse.
Finding out about other cultures, doing your homework about customs is advisable when interacting regionally or globally. The more you know, the more respectful your responses, the less chances of hurting or offending workers across borders.